Why You Should Do More Solo

There is something quite empowering in being able to do things solo and actually enjoying it. In my opinion, you should be able to appreciate spending time alone just as much as spending time with others. At the end of the day, your body is your home and you are the person who you spend the most time with; you should be able to feel content with yourself and be able to be your own best friend, somebody who will always be there for you.

Occasionally life forces you to be independent, this could be when friends and family are busy or could be if you live a distance from them. But why should you have to avoid or change your plans when you can do it alone? Within my 20s, I am learning to do more solo and am no longer waiting for others to be able to do plans with me; life is busy for everybody and if there is something you are wanting to do, do it! Alone if you have to!

Once you take that first leap and choose to do it solo, the other plans and goals will feel easy. These are a few simple ideas to begin your solo dating journey:

• Go for a walk and read your book in the park

• Sit in a coffee shop to enjoy a hot drink (challenge: without going on your phone!)

• Visit an exhibition or gallery

• Solo shopping

• Take yourself out for lunch

• Challenge yourself to sit in a restaurant and enjoy dinner

• Pamper and self care

• Picnic in the park

• Workout class

• Going to a concert

• Paint pottery or take a craft class

• A solo trip away

I would definitely like to challenge myself one day by booking a solo trip, challenging myself to organise all the sight-seeing. I know it would help me continue to be brave and do similar trips in the future. I would like to continue to learn more about myself, improve my self-confidence, have a deeper understanding of who I am and feel so proud that I accomplished a trip alone! You also never know how you might meet, as it provides an opportunity to connect with like-minded people who could end up being life-long friends!

You would be surprised how many other people do things solo (for example at a craft class) and may be hoping to meet new people as well. If you are worried about what others think of your

solo date and letting that stop you, remember; no one really cares if you are doing something alone, most will be minding their own business and are actually probably inspired by you!

Like I said previously, I am still working on self-connection and self-confidence myself and I believe you work on that throughout your lifetime. You should be able to feel comfortable spending time alone and making yourself happy, not always relying on others.

To help improve self-confidence, self-love and independence, it is so important to have some time alone. Whether that is a solo night in, pampering and cooking, or a three-month trip around Thailand meeting new people and sight-seeing; all are benefiting and supporting your own self-connection! It is just a fun challenge, especially if you are not used to solo dates.

So, don’t wait around! If there is something you have had on your to do list but are procrastinating or can’t find someone to do it with, be brave and give that solo date a go!

Written By Alice Abel